“I just got out of a relationship and I’m the one who left him but it still hurts. He’s moved on and so have I, but sometimes it hurts not being loved. Now I desperately want a boyfriend but I feel like I’m going to the wrong people. How do I know if I should date a guy if I’m not sure how I feel about him? Am I in the proper condition to date?”
Questions of the heart are the most difficult to answer, because there is no answer. When you say you feel like you are going out with the wrong people, what does that mean? If you can identify what is “wrong” then you can begin to think about what would be “right” for you. It also sounds like you need to think about what you want for your life and what would it take to make that a reality.
One of the most entertaining books that really speaks to these issues is Steve Harvey’s Think Like a Man, Act Like a Woman. He gives sound advice in a positive and often humorous way but leaves no doubt that, as women, we are worthy of being treated with dignity and respect.
Hope this helps.