“Dear Experts, My partner always asks me when we’re going to have sex. I’m not ready, but sometimes I wonder if it will make us closer. Is it wrong to think this?”
Having sex can bring people closer or it can push people apart, especially if one of them isn’t into it. It sounds like you know how you feel about sex — you’re not ready yet. That’s what matters. You’re the only person who can make that decision.
Sex is an important way for lots of couples to feel close to one another. But one of the biggest ground rules of sex is that both partners should want to do it. Deciding to have sex is a big deal, and rushing into it could make you feel like you’re sacrificing your wants and values — and that’s not going to make your relationship any stronger or closer. In fact, it can make it worse.
Talk about your feelings with your partner so you can be clear about what you want. If your partner doesn’t respect what you think and want, or if they keep pressuring you to have sex, then it’s probably time to think about whether this relationship is right for you.
Always remember this: Anyone who truly cares about you will respect your decision.
Hope this helps.