“I think that maybe you already know the right answer for you and are writing for some support for that answer. Let’s look at reality. The bottom line of what you said is, “I’m not ready for a child.” I would also have that same conversation with your boyfriend. Is he ready to support a child and commit to a forever relationship with you as a parent? If the answer for both of you is no, then why take any chance at all for that to happen? Every type of birth control has what are called failure rates. In other words, even when used perfectly, sometimes they don’t work perfectly and a woman becomes pregnant. The only 100% effective method is abstinence – not having sex. But, there are at least a thousand ways to show your love for someone without having sex…..
If you do decide to have sex, however, it is very, very important that you see a health care provider before that happens – to discuss the different birth control methods available, what the pros and cons are for each method, risks of getting STIs (sexually transmitted infections – like gonorrhea [GC], chlamydia, herpes, and HIV), and how to use the birth control method correctly, so that it works the best it can. A highly effective birth control method needs to be completely on board before the first episode of sex. Condoms by themselves have about a 15% failure rate for preventing pregnancy within a year of use in what is called “typical use” (the numbers for people that actually use them, not what perfect use numbers are.) So, while condoms can and do help prevent pregnancy and STIs, if you want the lowest risk possible for either of those possibilities, it would good to find out if there is a method you can use that has a better “typical user” rate of effectiveness.
Think, listen to your heart, talk to an older woman whom you trust, is wise, and cares for you…. With any big decision in life (and you will face many), it’s worth taking the time to make the choice that is best overall for you – the one that helps you achieve the dreams and goals you have for your future. You won’t have any regrets later if you go with that!“