I just recently began seeing a guy and our kisses feel like he’s trying to swallow my face. He seems to push his tongue as deep into my mouth and throat as he can, and all I can do is try to push back with my tongue. Is there a good way to let him know that I need him to calm down with his tongue?
The direct approach is always best, and the sooner the better. Right now, this guy has no way to tell that you’re not into his kissing style without you filling him in on it.
Prepare yourself in advance. Think about your timing, and make sure it’s not when you’ve already started kissing. Begin by talking about your positive feelings about him, and letting him know how much fun you’re having together. Build things up by letting him know that you’re really into kissing, but that when he pushes his tongue so far into your mouth, it’s not fun for you. Then, suggest some other options. This would be a great time to show him how you like to kiss and be kissed. That should take the tension off the situation!
The hope is that this guy likes to learn, and the two of you can come up with a kissing technique that works for both of you.