I’ve been seeing this guy I like a lot, and he feels the same way about me that I do about him. There are still a few problems, though. I’m African-American, and he’s white. I was raised in a pretty diverse environment, he was raised in a lower class neighborhood that’s all white. We think differently about many things. Neither one of us wants the other to get hurt if this doesn’t work out. What should we do?
Love appears in all kinds of places, and there’s really no telling why.
You didn’t mention any problem that can’t be solved – most couples don’t think the same way about many things. Think about it, put any two people together and you’ll get at least two opinions!
Turn your attention to what’s really important in a relationship: Is he honest? Is he a good friend? What do his relationships with his friends and family look like? What’s his stand on religion? Is he funny?
Questions like these offer a better way to figure out if a relationship is going to work than class background, skin color, or wealth. The only way to know if this could work is to give it a real shot. Brave through the differences and see what happens.