“Dear Experts: I got out of a long relationship this year. It really hurt me that the person I thought I would spend my life with broke my heart, but now I’m with someone else and my feelings for him are getting stronger each day. Is it a bad thing that I’m already feeling so strong about someone?”
Relationships are often difficult and when we feel that we have been rejected, that hurts! While having strong feelings for someone else is not bad, remember that broken hearts do heal but that takes time. You didn’t say how old you are or how long you were in your first relationship, nor did you mention how long it has been since you began a new relationship. So even though I don’t know all of your story, I would encourage you to take time in this new relationship. Regardless of the pain, learn from your heartbreak. Ask yourself what you want from a relationship, being very specific. Start with asking yourself: What do you dream for your life? What are your values? Then explore these ideas with this new partner. Does he share these qualities? Having an honest conversation early in the relationship will help you both decide if you are moving in the same direction.
Hope this helps.
-The FNF Experts